Challenges in keeping healthcare affordable make informal care increasingly important. It is essential to understand the context in which people provide informal care and gain insight into their wishes with regard to the division of care responsibilities. A total of 37 interviews and eight focus groups were conducted to investigate how Dutch carers’ care attitudes are shaped. Results show that carers’ intersecting social positions, such as gender, migration background, socio-economic status and stage of life, largely influence their care attitudes. Carers want to provide care but experience challenges in doing so. They request a government that takes the lead and facilitates cooperation with professionals.